Choosing Your Ceremony Readings
You’re getting married and you want the world, or at least
your closest friends and family, to know what’s in your heart.
Choosing ceremony readings that represent the beauty and love of
your relationship is a wonderful, and relatively easy way to share
these feelings and personalize your ceremony. Your readings should
be beautiful, moving and interesting to your guests, reflect the
words and feelings in your heart, yet still adhere to the formality
and “feel” that you want for your ceremony.
There are so many wonderful sources to find suitable readings.
You can find them in scripture; (I Corinthians 13:4-8 – “Love
is patient. Love is kind . . . ,” Ephesians 5:21-32 –
“Honor Christ by submitting to each other. . . . And the two
shall become one.”, Song of Solomon 6:3 – “I am
my beloved's and my beloved is mine . . . ”; from selections
of poetry (Alfred, Lord Tennyson – “In true marriage
lies, Nor equal, or unequal,” anonymous Chinese poet, Han
Dynasty – “O, celestial beings, Let our feelings for
each other, continue without diminishing,” ); or excerpts
from literature, William Shakespeare from As You Like It –
“ . . . no sooner met but they looked, no sooner looked but
they loved, no sooner loved but they sighed, no sooner sighed but
they asked one another the reason, no sooner knew the reason but
they sought the remedy . . . ”). However, since there are
so many, it can get so overwhelming. Don’t let this send you
down the simple route of merely looking at a list of possible selections
(usually provided by your officiant or person who is helping with
the ceremony), and picking a couple readings only because they’re
on his/her list and therefore must be the appropriate choices. Visit
your local library and look under topics such as poetry, literature,
wedding readings. Check your (and your fiancé’s) bookshelves,
and music collection. Some of the most beautiful words of love are
song lyrics.
Don’t be too quick to dismiss readings that have “been
done.” If you find yourself hesitating over a particular selection
because you’re afraid that your guests will groan, “Oh,
no! Not this one again,” stop a moment and give it a thorough
once over. Read the selection out loud, or have someone read it
to you. The spoken word has a much greater impact than just seeing
them on a piece of paper. You may need to back up a bit to include
a preceding verse or sentence or two, or if you have someone who
is creative with words, can write a suitable introduction. Including
this intro can help make the “same old” come alive,
becoming something that is new and fresh. In a beautiful introduction
to Corinthians 13:4-8, an aunt of the bride described the differences
between love and infatuation. An excerpt follows. “Infatuation
is fleeting desire. True love is a friendship that has caught fire.
Infatuation says we must get married right away, I can’t risk
losing you. Love says be patient, don’t panic, plan your future
with confidence. Infatuation might lead you to do things you will
regret. Love never steers you in the wrong direction. God, in His
amazing, infinite wisdom, said it perfectly in Corinthians.”
Of course, you’ll want to take special care in choosing the
person(s) who will be your readers. Look for someone who is comfortable
in front of a crowd, and can read in a good speaking voice. Even
the most beautiful, emotion evoking words will lose their meaning
if read in a droning, monotone voice.
Finally, to avoid any unpleasant surprises on your wedding day,
make sure to obtain a list of rules and regulations from your ceremony
site regarding what they do and do not permit for a wedding ceremony,
and get your officiant’s okay before finalizing any choices.
And remember, if worse comes to worse, and you aren’t allowed
to use a reading that you just cannot imagine doing without –
have someone read it at the reception. Words of Love aren’t
just for the ceremony.
Submitted By: Weddings From The Heart
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